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Joy to You & Me, Joy2MeU, and Joy2MeU2 Update Newsletter

This is an Update Newsletter of the Joy2MeU web site of codependency recovery / inner child healing pioneer, Spiritual teacher Robert Burney - who is the author of the Joyously inspirational book:  Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls. This Update is being published on my Mobile Friendly website.

 I used to post Update Newsletters regularly 3 or 4 times a year from 1999 through 2009 - and then once a year through 2012.  Click to see past Update Newsletters (not mobile friendly.)  My June 2018 Update on this mobile friendly site was the first Update I had published in over 6 years.  Then I published another Update in February 2019.

A short announcement e-mail is sent out notifying people - who have signed up for the Joy2MeU e-mailing list - when a new Update is posted. 

Hello Magnificent Radiantly Beautiful Spiritual Beings,

When I published my last Update in February 2019, I had no idea when I would do another one - or how many incredible and unexpected things would be coming in the 2 1/2 years since then.  What a crazy time to live through.

I posted this on on September 13th:

"This website - - is designed in a program that is obselete (Netscape) - which is why I started a new Mobile Friendly site a couple of years ago -  I keep an old computer to work on it, because it doesn’t work with any operating system from X on.  It is probably not going to work one of these days, as it has been giving me more and more problems.  I am putting this notice up here to let you know that very soon I may not be able to update this site,  and it will be good to go to for the latest news.  I am in the process of writing an Update Newletter to cover the last 2  1/2 years since my last Update Newsletter -  Valentine's Update-February 2019  - and hope to get it published before the end of September.  I will be doing Zoom Workshops for as long as the Pandemic lasts."  


1/3/19 - Today is my 35th Sobriety Anniversary ( My Sobriety Date: January 3rd, 1984).  An amazing miracle!  I am still living month to month - and have some dental and car issues that I could use help with - but just focusing on GRATITUDE today!! 


"It was quite a journey since April when this whole owning I have a choice to focus on the part of the glass that is full exercise started.  In this update, I am going to start with my last posting on this page on June 21st, and add the updates I made on my Working The Third Step page.


April 9 at 10:14 AM · 

So there is good news, and bad news. The Bad news is that I spilled a cup of coffee on my wireless keyboard yesterday - it is not working very good any more. The good news is that forced me to drive from Cambria to Pass Robles on highway 46 so that I could see how lush and green the hills are after all the rain.


April 16 at 4:04 PM - So, there is good news and bad news. The Bad news is that my car broke down. The good news is that, it is within a mile of my place. Just walked home with some bags of groceries so they won't spoil as I wait for an hour for tow truck. Going to take another load now.

4/17/19 - Yesterday as I was retuning from a trip to San Luis Obispo and Morro Bay running errands including getting supplies for my grandson to come and visit on his Spring break, my car died as I was approaching my turn off from Hiway 1.  It stopped running and was smoking just as I was approaching my turn off from hiway 1.  I had groceries, so walked them home because I knew tow truck would take an hour.  When I walked back there it did start and I got it home.  I unloaded and then went to the place that worked on it last year - they are going to look at it in the morning. Ran okay down and back, but was smoking when I got back home again - even though it was not showing that it was over heating.  So this morning I left it at mechanics and then walked up the 257 steps from downtown to the top of the hill near where I live.  Not sure how serious the car problem is going to be, but part of the bummer at this moment, is that I don't have enough money on a credit card to rent a car.  I could use some help from the Universe in making sure I can have my grandson visit.

4/21/19 - So I was able to get enough money together to rent a car to pick up my grandson - that is the good news.  The bad news is that my car had a blown head gasket, and maybe a cracked head.  Those are not good things.  The mechanic originally said that I needed a new engine, and then when I picked it up said it might be okay with the new hose and the stop leak they put on it.  They had told me earlier to just drive it around town and not take any trips out of town.  When I picked it up they said it might be okay.  So, between the mechanic's bill and the car rental for a week, my finances are really at rock bottom right now.  I need help before I can really look at what my options are with the car.  I am sure there is a perfect Divine Plan unfolding - just have no idea what it is right now.  I could use some Angels and Eskimos in my life right now.


5/21/19 - So, there is good news and bad news.  The good news is that I got a new car - it is a silver 2012 Hyundai Sonata . . . . . .  


Someone on Facebook asked how I was able to do it financially.  Here is my reply:

"Basically I needed to accept that the only realistic way to get reliable car is to be willing to take on a payment - so I chose to do that. No down payment and first payment due of just over a couple of hundred dollars in 45 Days and every month after that. Living month to month I didn't want the payment, but I needed the reliable vehicle. So, accept the things I can't change (that my car had broken down and was no longer reliable) and change the thing I can change (my attitude towards taking on a payment.) Very happy to have the car."

So that is the bad news, I had to take on a payment.  I live month to month and am very grateful every month that I have enough to pay the rent.  So, adding another payment was not something that I wanted to do. But as I said, accept reality as it is and make an attitude adjustment if necessary to take the action that I need to take. . . . . . Now I have a new payment due on June 15th and then less money coming in the end of June.  Not sure I would have taken on the payment knowing that - but I didn't know that, which is perfect in the Cosmic Scheme of things.  Things could be pretty hairy at the end of June - when it is time to pay rent for July.  I did get over $500 in donations from my appeal - and am incredibly grateful for the support and the prayers and good wishes from everyone.  I may have to be asking again in June, but I don't have to know today how things will be then." - Working the Third Step latest news


May 23 at 1:37 PM - So, there is good news and bad news. Bad news is my new car broke down on I-5. The good news is that I was just coming up to a rest stop within 15 miles of where Darien lives. I am up here for his 8th grade graduation tomorrow.


May 23 at 9:58 PM - So, about my new car breaking down. It turns out it has a 30 day warranty (I didn't buy the long term one) - but the work has to be done by CarMax. So, closest one to where I was at was in Modesto - so I had to car towed there. Good news, it was covered by warranty. Bad news Modesto was farther than my roadside assistance covered for towing - but only 9 miles, so good news the towing company gave me a deal and it will be a lot cheaper than if I had the car towed to a local garage as I had originally been planning. Also good news - they are going to give me a loaner car - which is important because bad news they won't even look at it to see what is wrong for at least a week. So, going to Modesto tomorrow after Darien's graduation ceremony.

What happened was the check engine light came on - and it lost a bit of power - just as I was coming to the rest area. I checked the book and is said an emissions problem and you can probably still drive it. Bad news, is that as soon as I started driving out of the rest area it started making noise and coughing and bucking. So, stopped right there. Don't know how serious it is, but sure glad it didn't happen any time in the 227 miles I had driven up until there. Some of it is really in the middle of no where. Could have broken down by the elk herd and I would have been in big trouble. :-) So, more will be revealed - as usual. Thanks for your good wishes - will keep you all posted.



May 31st

Got a call today from the woman at CarMax in Modesto about my car.  Turns out is was a factory recall on that year and model - and I am going to get a new engine in my new car.


June 11, 2019
There is good news and bad news.  The good news is my car has a new engine in it and I am going up to pick it up (and pick Darien up) on Thursday.  The bad news is that the first payment is due on Saturday and I don't have it at this point.  Finances are beyond tight right now.  My credit cards are maxed out.  One client who owes me money hasn't been able to pay it yet and another that told me Monday that he was going to buy more changed his mind.  I really need the Universe to kick down enough to catch up a bit right now.  I need at least $300 - and a $1000 would be even better.  Reminds me of some times in the past when I really needed a miracle, and I don't know where it is coming from.   I AM Radiantly Beautiful, Vibrationally Healthy, Joyously Alive, and Abundantly Prosperous!  Abundantly Prosperous!!!



June 29, 2019
So, again there is good news and bad news.  As I said below on May 21st, "The April sales are what I get paid for at the end of June." - and I got that payment today, it is $250 to $300 below my normal payment - and things are very tight for paying the rent this next week.  The good news is that I got my car payment made (thanks to help from some Eskimos) and made 2 credit card payments in the last week - and that I have made payments on 2 other credit cards that are due on the 1st.  The bad news is that I don't know where the money to pay my and Darien's cell phone bill - which is also due on the first - is going to come from.  So once again I can use a miracle like back in 1995.  ASKing for some financial support from the Universe again.


July 1, 2019
There is good news and good news.  The Universe - and some new clients - did kick down enough abundance to get all the bills due on 1st and 2nd paid, and to have enough for the rent.  Also good news is the next bills aren't due until the 8th and 9th.  In the meantime, Darien and I are going back to Nebraska to see my mother who is in her final stages before escaping the body that is failing her.  I would really love for the Universe to kick down enough to catch up a bit right now.  I would love at least $300 - and a $1000 or two would be even better

July 17, 2019
There is good news and good but sad news.  My mother passed away on the morning of July 13th.  It's good news because her suffering is over and she has gotten to escape from a body and mind that have been failing on her for the last few years. It is, of course, also sad news.  I am going home to Nebraska for her funeral on Friday.  Her passing means that my financial situation has been relieved in a considerable way for now and the foreseeable future.  So, the request for the Universe to provide enough to get out of the hole I was in, was answered in a way that I didn't expect.  Good news, but sad also.

September 4, 2019 - I have been meaning to update this page for quite awhile - and am just now able to find time to do that. 


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