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"This dance of Codependence is a dance of dysfunctional relationships - of relationships that do not work to meet our needs.  That does not mean just romantic relationships, or family relationships, or even human relationships in general.  The fact that dysfunction exists in our romantic, family, and human relationships is a symptom of the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with life - with being human.  It is a symptom of the dysfunction which exists in our relationships with ourselves as human beings." - (Quotations in this color are from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Codependency Recovery / Inner Child Healing Pioneer Robert Burney)

"Codependency is about having a dysfunctional relationship with self!  With our own bodies, minds, emotions, and spirits. With our own gender and sexuality. With being human. Because we have dysfunctional relationships internally, we have dysfunctional relationships externally.

Codependency is an emotional and behavioral defense system which our egos adapted in early childhood to help us survive.  We were raised in shame based, emotionally dishonest, Spiritually hostile environments by parents who were wounded in their childhoods by patriarchal, shame based civilization that treated children and women as property.  We formed our core relationship with self in early childhood - and built our relationship with self, life, and other humans based on that foundation.  Programmed to feel shame about being imperfect humans, and trained to be emotionally dishonest, we were set up to live life reacting to the emotional trauma and dysfunctional intellectual programming of childhood.  Because we feel shame about being human, we have a relationship with life that does not work to bring us Joy or inner peace. 

We do not have the power to change others - we do have the power to change our relationship with self by healing our codependency / wounded souls.  We can access the capacity to accept, embrace, forgive, have compassion for, and set boundaries with, all parts of self.  Learning to Love our self will allow us to gain the capacity to Love others in a healthy way.  Changing our relationship with life can transform life into an exciting adventure."  ~   Robert Burney

"The point that I am making is that our understanding of Codependence has evolved to realizing that this is not just about some dysfunctional families, our very role models, our prototypes, are dysfunctional. Our traditional cultural concepts of what a man is, of what a woman is, are twisted, distorted, almost comically bloated stereotypes of what masculine and feminine really are."

"In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child."  The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."

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The newly redesigned Home page for Joy2MeU Web Site of Spiritual Teacher, codependency counselor,

Author Robert Burney 
and Joy to You & Me Enterprises

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Robert is a pioneer in codependency recovery / inner child healing

and the author of the Joyously inspirational book

The Dance of Wounded Souls

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Formula for Recovery - Path to Empowerment, Serenity, and Freedom from the Past


Codependence / Codependency / Adult Child of Alcoholic/dysfunctional family Recovery  

inner child healing (develop Loving ongoing relationships with the wounded parts of self - including loving boundaries)  

emotional energy release / grief (including anger) process work  

reprogramming of dysfunctional codependent mental attitudes and false beliefs  

internal boundaries to counteract toxic shame and abuse of critical parent / disease voice  

integration of Spiritual belief in Loving Higher Power / God Force / Goddess Energy / Great Spirit into emotional relationship with self and life = 

Joy and Love to You & Me - to Me & You

Joy2MeU = The ability to relax & enJoy being ALIVE today

"It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around."

"Codependence is a very vicious and powerful form of Delayed Stress Syndrome. The trauma of feeling like we were not safe in our own homes makes it very difficult to feel like we are safe anywhere. Feeling like we were not lovable to our own parents makes it very difficult to believe that anyone can Love us."

Spiritual Teacher and Codependency counselor Robert Burney, whose work has been compared to John Bradshaw's "except much more spiritual" and described as "taking inner child healing to a new level," has developed a unique holistic approach to emotional healing that is the next level of recovery from codependency so many people have been seeking.  He has pioneered an inner child healing paradigm that offers a powerful, life changing formula for integrating Love, Spiritual Truth, and intellectual knowledge of healthy behavior into one's emotional experience of life - a blueprint for individuals to transform their core relationship with self and life. 

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Telephone Counseling with Robert - an Empowering & Life Changing experience

My Sobriety Date: January 3rd, 1984


Robert made a conscious commitment to codepedency recovery on June 3rd 1986 - the story of Joy to You & Me


February 2019 Update Newsletter

Life Changing Zoom Workshops

Robert Burney is a pioneer in the area of codependency recovery / inner child healing. His first book Codependence The Dance of Wounded Souls has been called "one of the truly transformational works of our time.”  His website offers over 200 pages of free original content  on codependency recovery, inner child healing, relationship dynamics, alcoholism/addiction, fear of intimacy, Twelve Step Spirituality, New Age Metaphysics, emotional abuse, setting boundaries, grief process, and much more.  The Joy2MeU website is designed in an ancient design program which is not mobile friendly.  This site - - is a redesign of the home and site index pages of in a mobile friendly format.  There are links provided here and on the site index page to both the original joy2meu site and mobile friendly versions of most of the articles on the site. 

Below are listed the index pages of and mobile friendly websites with most of the articles from the site.

Codependence Pages Index 
codependence / codependency =  outer / external dependence =  The Human Condition 

30 Pages that explain the condition of Codependence / Codependency.


Inner Child Healing Pages index 
An innovative new level of Inner Child Healing - a healing paradigm that includes tools, techniques, and perspectives for achieving Spiritual integration & emotional balance. 
35 pages that focus on the Process / emotional healing / integration / inner child Work.


Alcoholism Pages Index 
Bill Wilson would have loved to have had the tools we have available to us today.  He would have run to an ACA or CoDA meeting where he could have found the roots of the depression which tormented him. 
12 Pages on disease of alcoholism & 12 steps.


Spiritual Belief System Pages index 
We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience -  this is the polar opposite of the beliefs which underlie Civilization - it changes the whole game. 
28 Pages on Robert's Spiritual Paradigm.


Romantic Relationships Pages index 
It is so important to realize how we were set up to feel like failures in Romantic Relationships - to really get it on a gut level, so that we can forgive ourselves. 
40 Pages focused on Romantic Relationships.


Metaphysical Pages Index 
A New Age has dawned in human consciousness and we now have tools, knowledge, and access to healing energy and Spiritual guidance that has never before been available. 
17 Pages on Metaphysical aspects of belief system. 


Miscellaneous Topics Pages index 
I wrote a monthly column/article - first for a local paper, then for a Recovery paper in Texas, most recently the internet - for about 10 years.  
30 pages - Miscellaneous articles and columns.

No Mobile version but some of articles are on

Information Pages index 
This page also includes links to past Update Newsletters for the Joy2MeU web site, as well as testimonials & reviews (for book, web site and phone counseling) special offers, awards, etc.  
40 Informational pages + 55 Update pages

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"I just read your wonderful book, thank you for writing it. I have been a spiritual teacher since childhood, however, your book let me organize my thoughts a new way, a new perspective. I now have a much deeper understanding and am still learning from it. Dance, is one of the truly transformational works of our time."

"When I found your book, I found myself."

"I am a 52 year old psychotherapist and have struggled with codependency all my life.  Up until tonight I have been disappointed in the literature and treatment of codependency.  Your work is brilliant!  I can't find words to express my appreciation with the depth I am feeling."

"I read thru much of your website and I am very inspired by it.  I have been feeling that something is missing from the 12-step CoDA meetings and now I know it is true."

"Your work is brilliant and from what I've read on your website I am just utterly blown away by this material.   It's like finally someone has put this mess of codependance into perspective so it can be healed!"

"Your writing is more insightful and instructive for change than Bradshaw and Melody Beattie of codependence no more.  Pia Melody's pretty good but you're more broad thinking in concepts and more compassionate too."

"I truly believe that I have made more progress on a personal level in the few weeks I have had Robert's book and tape than in the preceding eight plus years when I first found out what codependency was.  THANK YOU"

"I find it very exciting that you have brought the whole definition of codependence to this spiritual level, where I can much more relate to it's truth."

"Your message has forever changed my path in this lifetime.  Thank you so much for sharing your perceptions and experiences through your book, and your website. You are a guide and a healer, I will be forever grateful for having connected and crossed paths with you and your work."

"Robert, you are a metaphysical Stephen Hawking. Thank you."

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July 21, 2024:  The latest additions & announcements about Robert's web sites and appearances are on the 

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Special Offers for phone counseling, workshop, subscriptions,  MP3 downloads, Wounded Soul Trilogy, multiple copies of book

Subscription areas of site:

Joy2MeU Journal - Robert's recovery journey and personal journal

Dancing in Light with 3 online books +

Authors Biographical info

The Story of "Joy to You & Me" / Joy2MeU

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Inner Child Healing - Choosing a therapist or counselor with discernment

Assignments for Jump Starting Codependency Recovery

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Robert Burney's Books in print

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The Dance

of Wounded Souls


A Cosmic Perspective on Codependence and the Human Condition

by Robert Burney

You can get a personally autographed copy when you purchase from Joy2MeU or RobertBurneyLive- if you don't care about the autograph you can also get this book  Amazon.comAmazon UK, or Barnes & Noble

Also available in eBook format: Amazon KindleAmazon UKBarnes & Noble Nook and Kobo ereader

Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" spoken by

Robert Burney is available as an MP3 download or an unabridged audiobook is available on, Amazon, and iTunes.

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Codependency Recovery
Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light
Book 1: Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing (aka A Formula for Spiritual Integration and Emotional Balance)

You can get a personally autographed copy when you purchase from Joy2MeU or RobertBurneyLive - if you don't care about the autograph you can also get this book through Amazon.comAmazon UK, or Barnes & Noble

Also available eBook format: Amazon Kindle , Amazon UKBarnes & Noble Nook, & Kobo ereader

and March 2015 - an an unabridged audiobook is available on, Amazon, iTunes. 

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Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth  
Codependent Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics & Healthy Relationship Behavior  

You can get a personally autographed copy when you purchase from Joy2MeU or RobertBurneyLive

- or through Amazon.comAmazon UK, or Barnes & Noble

Also available as two eBooks in Amazon Kindle format  eBook 1 & eBook 2 (eBook 1 is the first 20 Chapters, 2 is the next 20 Chapters),  Barnes & Noble Nook format eBook 1 & eBook 2, and Kobo ereaders eBook 1 and eBook 2

September 2014 - an audiobook version of eBook 1: Codependent Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics & Healthy Relationship Behavior is now on sale on Audible, Amazon, and iTunes

Learning to Live The Serenity Prayer in Your Life

Joy to You & Me presents an Intensive Training in Robert Burney's Spiritual Integration Formula for Inner Healing /

Codependency Recovery / Inner Child Healing - on Zoom - an empowering and Life Changing experience.

Sunday August 11th & 18th Western Hemisphere and European

9 - 12 am PDT,  10 am - 1 pm MDT Denver,  11 am to 2 pm CDT Omaha / Chicago,  12 noon - 3 pm EDT New York,

5 - 8  pm London,  6 - 9 pm Paris/Berlin/Johannesburg ,  7 - 10 pm Helsinki/Beirut etc.

9/13/21 - Announcing Zoom workshops will continue for the forseeable future.

Zoom + Life Changing seminar = Joyous Zoominar

Are you sick and tired of repeating the same patterns?  Are you looking for some answers?


A Day Long Intensive Training in Robert Burney's Spiritual Integration Formula for Inner Healing / Codependency Recovery / Inner Child Healing on Zoom

Announcing a Zoom Workshops in August 2024


An Empowering & Life Changing Workshop!   

"Robert Burney's training day was so inspirational and enlightening.  He was loving and warm and presented profound life changing material in a very not intimidating way.  Magical!"

  "My life has been much better since I went to your seminar."

"It does not matter how much Spiritual Truth, how many mystical experiences of oneness, how in tune with Love, you can feel in certain moments - if you cannot integrate it into your life in a way which changes your emotional experience of life on a moment to moment, day to day basis.  You can go to therapy for many years, read all the Spiritual and self help books, go to workshops and seminars and lectures - compile encyclopedic intellectual knowledge of what healthy behavior is - and still be reacting to old wounds in the relationships that mean the most to you.

The missing ingredient for so many people who have been seeking for many years, is how to integrate what you know into how you feel about your experience life.  That is what I teach people - because it is what I have spent many years learning." - Intensive Training Day  

June 3, 2011 Announcing:  For the first time a recording of Robert Burney's Spiritual Integration Workshop is available as an MP3 download


Morro Bay CA - not sure when in person workshop will be feasable again as of 1/10/23


Coalesce A Book Store & More 

845 Main Street

Morro Bay, CA. 93442


In the Garden Wedding Chapel

Sunday ??? 2020

11:30 until 4:30 pm

MP3 Video Recording of

the Life Changing Workshop:

Special Offer

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Mobile friendly site: launched 5-24-2018

 Contact Robert  Joy2MeU Web Site @ -  Launched 2-4-99    

My original Joy to You & Me Web Site @  -  Launched 2-28-98


Joy to You & Me Enterprises is the publishing company that Robert formed to publish his book.  It is a sole proprietorship with Robert as the owner and only employee. 

Joy to You & Me Enterprises   PO Box 1028   Cambria Ca. 93428   805-900-5237

"Dear Robert, Your work has divinely touched and spiritually inspired me......I came to your site in my desperate hour and found so many truths, I couldn't hide anymore. I made the choice, to face the fear, look inside through the darkness and pain, to feel who I was and why. . . . You have given me much healing through your  generous gifts that I would like to share with you my love, appreciation and gratitude.  I am sending a donation ___.  Thank you so very much. Blessings and Abundance Always" 

(Donations to the cause / Spiritual Tithes are always appreciated: Donations / Love Offerings)


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January 7th, 2013 Announcing the publication of Robert's newest eBookThe Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted - in Amazon Kindle format and Barnes & Noble Nook format

The follow up eBook to The Law of Attraction is The Metaphysics of Emotions - emotional energy is real is available in Amazon Kindle format & Barnes & Noble Nook 


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January 2016 Now available for Kobo ereaders The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted, and The Metaphysics of Emotions - emotional energy is real.

April 13th, 2015 Audiobook of the eBook The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted A Larger Spiritual Paradigm now available on Audible, Amazon, and iTunes. Site index page


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July 21st, 2024:  The latest additions & announcements about Robert's web sites and appearances are on the Joy2MeU New & News Page 


 7/21/24 update - Mobile Friendly New & News page 


Latest article July 2021: Into The Forest - and out of Cambria

New June 2018 Update Newsletter


New February 2019 Update Newsletter

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