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This is a continuation of the page Working the Third Step - ASKing for Help 2023 

- a history of how Eskimos and Angels helped me to publish my book and keep in print and my website going.


History of Asking for Help


When I published Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls in 1995, I was sure it would be a Best Seller almost immediately.  I expected that Oprah would be calling me and asking me to appear on her show once she discovered my book.


"Through some incredible miracles and the appearance of some angels in human form, I was able to self publish Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls in late 1995 (actually getting the books delivered from the printer on November 30th 95, though the official publication date is January 1996.)  I believed the book contained Truth that so many spiritual seekers were desperate for - and because of that, it would quickly become a best seller." - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving


Publishing The Dance was the culmination of a journey that I was led on in my recovery.  Starting with the message from my primary counselor at the Independence Center in Lincoln Nebraska about working the 3rd step before I was 30 days sober.  I did not start out wanting to write a book.  I was just trying to learn how to live clean and sober - and once I was clean and sober to learn how to stop allowing the emotional wounds and intellectually programming from my childhood to run my life.   In 1988 - in my fifth year of sobriety - I was led to an emotional breakdown/through that led me into a 30 treatment program for codependency.  The second last day, while I was going through checking out of the Center, I ran into one of the family therapists.  She was an angel that relayed a message that was life changing for me.


"I didn't really start to investigate any of these areas until after I had been through treatment for codependence in the Spring of 1988.  The day before I left the treatment center one of my counselors told me that I was a mystic.  I had to look the word up in the dictionary.

mystic - n.  One who professes a knowledge of spiritual truth or a feeling of union with the divine, reached through contemplation or intuition.  (New Illustrated Webster's Dictionary, 1993 printing.)

That person was an angel in my path because she stimulated me to create the space in my consciousness to be open to a different kind of inner communication." - The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted


While I was going through treatment, they hired someone else for my job.  And my primary counselor recommended I go on disability instead of going back to work. The first thing I did was move out of LA.

"One of the things I had seen clearly while in treatment was what a codependent relationship I had with the city of Los Angeles. I hated living there but “had” to be there because of my acting career. What a set up to be a victim. The first thing I did when I got back from treatment is to pack up and leave LA. I didn’t have any place special in mind at that point that I wanted to go to, so I went back to Tucson Arizona where the treatment center I had been in was located.

Being in Tucson, led me to get involved with a healing group in Sedona – where I moved after about 2 months" - The Path of one Recovering Codependent ~ the dance of one wounded soul: Miracles

While in Sedona I had a life changing experience.

“Fifteen years ago this month (I wrote this article in August 2003) - in August 1988 - some incredible, unbelievable, indescribable events occurred in my life that I believe revealed to me my Karmic mission and purpose in this lifetime. . . . . . The message that I got in August of 88, the karmic settlement that I committed my life to, involved taking responsibility.  It specifically involved being willing to stand up in public and state my Truth even if everyone in the world said I was crazy.  That commitment led me to give a talk in June of 1991 that evolved into my book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.” - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving

From Sedona, I moved to Taos New Mexico for a year. It was in Taos that I started writing.


"Even before I went to Taos, I had gotten the message that I would be in Taos for about a year and then I would go to somewhere that the mountains and ocean came together. . . . . 

. . . . . . .After discovering Cambria California on that trip up the Central Coast at the end of 1989, I lived there through 1992 – and then later for most of the time between 1995 and 2006 (with some time spent living in Santa Barbara in the late 90s.)  It was in Cambria where I first did the talk that became my book Codependence The Dance of Wounded Souls.  Then I moved back to Cambria (after having lived in Taos for a few years again) in 1995 when I published my book.  For an overview of my journey you can check out my Bio where you can also find out that when I wrote the above installment I was actually experiencing a form of homelessness.

“I spent 6 months in 1999 being homeless. Not on the street homeless – I had an office for my computer – but crashing on someone’s couch kind of homeless. The lessons in acceptance and patience and letting go that I learned during that time were sacred gifts. The level of faith that it forced me to access and practice, the depth to which I was forced to integrate my Spiritual belief system into my relationship with life, was a manifestation of Love from my Higher Power that I am now – and have been – reaping great benefits from.” Bio page for author


It has been an interesting journey to say the least." - The Path of one Recovering Codependent ~ the dance of one wounded soul: Miracles

It was in Taos the second time that I really started learning more about asking for help and opening up to receive. 


“It was a retired Episcopal minister from Kansas who planted the seed of the idea of self publishing in my mind.  Someone in Taos had sent him a tape of my talk - actually only one tape of a two tape set.  I taped my talk live in those days, and had some tapes for sale - though they were pretty poor in terms of recording quality.

He contacted me after listening to the tape and decided to come to Taos for a period of time to work with me.  He drove over in a big mobile home and stayed doing groups (inner child healing grief groups) for 4 or 5 months.

One day, he suggested that I publish the book myself - something I had never considered.  I started gathering information on the process and allowed the idea to grow.” - Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance


“I had started to put out information at my talks on the "investment opportunity" for the publishing company that I was trying to form.  I wasn't having any real luck getting anyone in Taos interested - or rather getting anyone that had money interested.  In the fall of 1994, as the Holiday period approached, I didn't really want to start waiting tables again - but if I didn't, I had no idea where my rent was going to come from for January.  That was when the idea of making a trip to California to try to raise the money came to me.

I started getting the message in various forms that I should in fact make this trip to California.  My reaction was the usual one I had back then to intuitive messages that I needed to take some huge risk - "No way!"

"This is a pattern with me and the Universe - I get a message and I say "Are you crazy - no way!"  But eventually, as a message keeps getting repeated over and over, eventually I surrender and say, "OK, but you'd better take care of me." - Miracles October 2005 Update 


It was an absolutely insane idea.  One of those real "Empty handed leaps into the void" that I talk about in other places in my writing.  I couldn't have had much more than about $500 when I left, and I think I had one credit card with about a $500 limit (and if I remember correctly, got a new one with a $250 limit right before leaving town) - which is not rationally and logically a basis to give up my comfortable condo and head off on an open ended trip.” - Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance


“By the later part of March I was in dire financial straights and very discouraged.  My credit cards were maxed out, my car needed some work, and I had borrowed money from a few people.  One Friday morning I woke from a dream seeing the image of a check in my hand.  I didn't remember the dream - just the image of a check.  It was for $5,104.68 or some such odd number.  I don't remember exactly.  I guess by that time I had figured out that I needed about $5000 to get even, get back to Taos, and get started back up there - with a place to live and all.

That afternoon I snapped.  I raged and cussed at God.  I yelled something to the affect, "You promised you would take care of me.  You blankety blank blank blank, how could you betray me like this.  I am just doing your will - doing what you told me to do.  Now I need $5000 just to get even and I still need $20,000 to publish the book."  And I cried quite a bit because I was really hurting - feeling abandoned and betrayed - and feeling like I had made a huge mistake.

The next afternoon there was a CoDA meeting - and one of the people who was doing a group with me called to ask if she could talk to me after the meeting.  I said sure - and then was hoping and praying that she would at least consider the time I would spend with her counseling and pay me the $25 I charged for a session in those days so I would be able to eat over the weekend.  That was how bad it was by then.

After the meeting we stepped outside into a little patio / smoking area, and she handed me an envelope.  I opened the envelope and was confused by what was in it.  It was a cashiers check and I had never seen one before.  It took me a few seconds just to figure out what it was.  As it started to sink in, I looked at the figure on the check - it was for $5,000.

The first thing I said was, "It's not for the right amount." - because it didn't match my dream.  Can you imagine being destitute, having someone hand you a cashiers check made out to you, and saying "it's not the right amount."  I think, it is safe to say, I was in shock.”  - Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance

“I was back in Taos and having a hard time finding a place to live that was decent - and having trouble getting some income coming in again.  Once again I snapped and started raging at God.  This time I raged, "Now I need $2000 just to get even, and I still need $20,000 to publish the book."

Two hours later the phone rang.  It was the woman in California.  She said, "I am getting the message that I should send you $2000.  Does that sound right to you?"

I get goose bumps and little shivers though out my body just thinking about it again.  Talk about magic.  Talk about miracles.


I told her that yes it did sound right to me - but that this time I wouldn't just accept it as a gift, that I would consider it an investment in my book.

In July of that year, I got $40,000 to publish the book.  I guess the Universe considered my two requests for $20,000 to be separate and added them together. :-)  Or more likely, just gave me enough, because $20,000 would not have done the job.” -   - Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance


As I said, I thought my book was going to be best seller - and that Oprah would be calling.  That is not what happened.


"I got the message that I needed to let go of the "Oprah is going to call and then the book is going to be a best seller scenario."

This is so typical of the way the Universe and Bubba (my nickname for my Higher Self - which derives from The Dance of Wounded Souls Trilogy  Book 1) work in my life.  Just when the book is selling better than ever, and the web site is reaching more people, it became time to let go of the Oprah scenario.  That scenario actually got me in a lot of trouble. 

For those of you who are newer to this mailing list, I will give a little background.  I raised the money to publish my book from investors who believed in it and in me.  When I got a large sum of money to do the publishing back in the late July of  1995, I started doing all the things I needed to do and spending that money.  Spending that money caused me to get quite a bit of credit.  Because of my deep belief in the book and it's importance, I thought that it would become a best seller in a comparatively short period of time.  So I used that credit to market the book.  A big mistake - which was of course perfect in the Cosmic Scheme of things and not a mistake at all. 

When the book didn't take off, I was in trouble financially.  I spent close to 2 years just struggling to make the minimum payments on my credit cards.  I moved away from where I feel at home to Santa Barbara to try to earn more money to help me get out of debt.  I finally just couldn't keep it up and realized that declaring bankruptcy was the most Loving thing I could do for myself.  That happened just prior to me starting my first web site - Joy to You & Me on - in February of 1998.  A year later I invested some money in starting my own domain site - Joy2MeU - and getting online credit card processing.  Then I lost some sources of income and ended up homeless for about 6 months.  Not homeless as in on the street - but homeless as in crashing on a friends couch.  I still had an office where I had my computer and did my writing - but I had no living space to call my own." - Joy toYou & Me and Joy2MeU Update newsletter 5-27-00

I wrote a lot of great stuff during that period of "homelessness" - and it was a gift in my path.  I was able to get a place to live with a friend in Morro Bay - and worked for that friend while getting to better financial conditions.  He was a stucco guy and I was working as a hod carrier - one of the dirtiest hardest jobs I have ever had.  I finally got moved back to Cambria in the fall of 2000.

"It was the gift of $5000 from someone who had been touched by my writing - and wanted to align herself Karmically with my message - that made it possible for me to move back Cambria in September 2000 and rent the apartment that I lived in until I moved in with my partner this past July.  I did the majority of the writing on my site in that little one bedroom apartment here in Cambria - this place that I feel emotionally and Spiritually nurtured and inspired.  The place that I recognized as "home" the first time I drove into it.


"One of the messages I had gotten consistently in the days before the trip, when I was considering the possibility of moving to someplace I didn't really want to live, was a line from a song that kept coming to mind.  It was a line from a song by the Eagles - a group in whose songs I have found words of insight and inspiration over the years.  This particular few words that kept coming up for me were "pick a place to make your stand . . and take it easy."  I was real clear that the place I picked years ago to make my stand was right here on the Central Coast of California.  The town of Cambria specifically. . . . .  The reason that Cambria is so special to me however, is because it feels like a mountain town right on the ocean.  I had discovered Cambria while driving up the coast looking for a place that the mountains and ocean come together - and had recognized it as the place I was looking for, as soon as I drove into it the first time.” Joy2MeU Journal the dance of one wounded soul 6 July 2001. Joy to you & Me and Joy2MeU Update Newsletter October 2005

I got the help to do a second printing of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls in the summer of 2002 from a couple of friends who believed in my book.  But the second printing was only 1500 books - so a year later I was looking at running out of books before the end of 2003.  I put up the Working the Third Step - Asking for Help page in January 2003.

"I first placed a Help page on my site in January of 2003 -  very reluctantly, and for what I thought was only going to be for a short period of time.  Each time I have had to ask for help, it has been with great reluctance and ego resistance - having to fight against the ego / critical parent messages that asking for help makes me a loser and a failure.  Later in 2003, when I was desperate to keep my book in print, I posted another page on which I discussed the importance of being open to receive and how my Spiritual Path had required me to learn that in opening up to receive I was actually giving others a chance to give / to contribute / to connect themselves energetically and Karmically to the Truth of the message of Joy and Love that is the essence of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.

"In August of 2003 I posted this page as a way of working the third step and sending a request out into the Universe for help in keeping my book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls in print. . . .  It has been miracles that allowed me to publish my book and to keep it in print - and this was one more time when The Universe miraculously manifested the support I needed to continue my work. . . . . If you haven't read this page I do think you will find it interesting in regard to the history of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls and the discussion of the metaphysical laws of giving and receiving.  I am very, very grateful for the Love Offerings that have made it possible to keep my book in print. ~ Robert 12/5/03" - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes


As I mention on that page, the reason I make so much information available on my web site for free is that carrying the message is my mission - is me doing what I need to do for my recovery and Spiritual Path.  "In freely giving Love I not only open to Love flowing into my life, but I am also manifesting Love into the Collective Consciousness and reminding you of the Truth of who you really are.  The more of you that remember who you Truly are and open up to Love flowing into your life, the closer we get to the Hundredth Monkey Effect that will bring about critical mass in the energy field of Collective Human Intellectual Consciousness and allow us to escape from the polarized thinking that has kept human beings warring on each other for thousands of years."  And that "The reward is in the quality of my life on a day to day basis - in the ability to have peace within, to access Joy and Love in my day to day life - not in any material or financial or physical reward." - Donations


As I said there, the book becoming a best seller was never really the goal anyway.  It was what I thought would happen because the information is so important and valuable - and people needed it.

“Rather my book is ever a best seller or not, rather it ever even goes into a second printing, does not matter.  If I never have more money than just what I need to pay the rent and keep on living one day at a time, is not important.  I have already been wildly successful in my mission.  My work and my book have been instrumental in creating a new level of understanding in the Collective Human Consciousness.  I have contributed to a paradigm shift that helps others to see Truth with more clarity.  I have accomplished my mission of reminding others that they can remember the Truth of Love just as I have been led to do - even if I die tomorrow.” - May 2002  Future Publications of Robert Burney's work

I actually came to believe that it was a gift that my book didn't become a best seller.

“My situation financially forced me to keep asking for help, to keep working my program, to keep writing for this web site.  My book is not a best seller yet because it was not part of the Divine Plan.  It was a gift to me to be forced to keep writing for this web site.  A Divine gift to my self/Self because of the enormous growth it has sparked in my personal recovery process, and a gift to the thousands - probably tens of thousands - of people around the world whose lives have been changed by reading my book or my words on the internet.” - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving


Now, over 27 years after it was published, I think it has touched the lives of hundreds of thousands of people - and the waves rippling out from it has probably touched millions.  Just this morning (April 24th 2023) as I was wishing Happy Birthday to the people who are my Facebook friends that have birthdays today, I got this message back from one of the people.

"i love you dude and so thankful for your book pulling me out of the worst time of my life.  I recommend it all the time!!!  this world is a great place with you in it,"

As I have mentioned, I didn't set out to write a book.  I was just trying to learn how to live life in a way that worked better for me than what I had learned in childhood.  I explained how the process unfolded in the foreword to my book.

“As my Recovery from Alcoholism progressed, however, I began to realize that just being clean and sober was not enough. I started to look for some other answers. By that time the conception of the Adult Child Syndrome had expanded beyond just pertaining to Alcoholic families. I started to realize that, although my family of origin had not been Alcoholic, it had indeed been dysfunctional.

I had gone to work in the Alcoholism Recovery field by this time and was confronted daily with the symptoms of Codependence and Adult Child Syndrome. I recognized that the definition of Codependence was also expanding. As I continued my personal Recovery, and continued to be involved in helping others with their Recovery, I was constantly looking for new information. In reading the latest books and attending workshops, I could see a pattern emerging in the expansion of the terms "Codependent" and "Adult Child." I realized that these terms were describing the same phenomenon.


I was troubled, however, by the fact that every book I read, and every expert with whom I came into contact defined "Codependence" differently. I began to try to discover, for my own personal benefit, one all-encompassing definition.

This search led me to examine the phenomenon in an increasingly larger context. I began to look at the dysfunctional nature of society, and then expanded farther into looking at other societies. And finally to the human condition itself. The result of that examination is this book: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls, A Cosmic Perspective on Codependence and the Human Condition.” - Author's Foreword from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls  

A Cosmic Perspective of Codependence and the Human Condition is the subtitle of my book - and that is the key for me on my Spiritual Path, in my recovery journey.  My quest to understand codependence led me to a larger Spiritual paradigm that allowed me to get past the belief that it was shameful to be human - that it was shameful to be me.

"In his book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "A Cosmic Perspective on Codependence and the Human Condition" he postulates that Codependence (i.e. outer or external dependence) is The Human Condition as we have inherited it - and that we have now entered a new Age of Healing and Joy in which it is possible to heal the planet through healing our relationships with self.  He combines Twelve Step Recovery Principles, Metaphysical Truth, and Native American Spirituality with quantum physics and molecular biology in presenting his belief that we are all connected, we are all extensions of the Divine, and that ultimately Love is our True essence.  His personal Spiritual beliefs - which embrace both Christ Consciousness and Goddess Energy - is that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience that is unfolding perfectly from a Cosmic perspective.  He considers spirituality to be a word that describes one's relationship with life - and anyone, regardless of religious/spiritual belief or lack of it (who is not completely closed minded), can apply the approach he shares in his book to help them transform their experience of life into an easier, more Loving and enjoyable journey."

I came to believe that codependence is the Human Condition as we inherited it.  And that Human condition was caused by planetary Conditions - an original wound, not original sin.  Shame about being human has been passed down from generation to generation - and like the toxic shame that is at the core of the individual disease of codependence - it is a lie.  There is nothing wrong with being human.  We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience.  We are here for awhile going to boarding school learning lessons and settling Karma - then we get to go back home into the ONENESS, which in Truth we never left.

"Any message that supports polarity - right and wrong, black and white - is not coming from a large enough paradigm.  Yin and Yang are not separate - they are ONE dynamic, one whole.  It is our polarized perspective that makes them seem to be competing opposites.  When we look at the human dynamic from a large enough perspective we can see the ONENESS of it all." - New Age Misinterpretations of Metaphysical Truth

It was the Planetary conditions that caused disruption between Spiritual Self and human self - and caused human beings to act in ways that were actually shameful. Western Civilization went forth to subdue and conquer - and committed horrible crimes on people who were much more aligned Spiritually than they ever were.

"The dance of wounded souls is a self-perpetuating cycle of cause and effect that has evolved into becoming the Human Condition. That dance of Codependence - as it can now be called - is both a cause, a tune that we have been dancing to, and the effect, the dance itself.  Codependence is not the original cause - it is a cause in the self-perpetuating cycles of cause and effect that have dictated the course of human evolution.

The original wound, which I will discuss a little later, had the effect of creating a Spiritually hostile condition on this planet. That Spiritually hostile condition then became a cause with many consequences.

One of the most devastating of these consequences, or effects, was that human beings began to express emotions in destructive ways. Because the channel between Spiritual Self and human self was disrupted by planetary condition, the human ego began to develop the belief that it was separate from other humans and from the Source. This belief in separation made violence possible. . . . . 


. . . . . The incredible pain of feeling separate from the Creative Source is the greatest pain there is.  The original wound was feeling abandoned by God.  Feeling betrayed by the Creator. It was the feeling that the Source from which we sprang, The Universal.Creative Intelligence, had abandoned us, which caused humans to assume that we had done something shameful enough to be punished." Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

Civilization on the planet Earth is based upon belief in separation - not connection.  That belief in separation is what makes violence possible - it is also what makes it possible to be destroying the planet we live on.

"We live in a society where a few have billions while others are starving and homeless.  We live in a society which believes that it is not only possible to own and hoard the resources and the land but one which can rationalize killing the planet we live on.  These are symptoms of imbalance, of reversed thinking."


"For all of the so called progress of our modern societies, we still are far behind most aboriginal cultures in terms of respect for individual rights and dignity in some kind of balance with the good of the whole.  (I am speaking here of tribal aboriginal societies - not urbanized ones.)  Nowhere is this more evident in terms of our relationship to our children.

Modern civilizations - both Eastern and Western - are no more than a generation or two removed from the belief that children were property.  This, of course, goes hand in hand with the belief that women were property.  The idea that children have rights, individuality, and dignity is relatively new in modern society.  The predominant and underlying belief, as it has been manifested in the treatment of children, has been that children are extensions of, and tools to be used by, their parents."  - Inner Child Healing - Why do it?

"New Age is in many ways a synthesis of Western and Eastern beliefs and practices.  What too many of the people involved in New Age don't understand is this:  the reality that both traditions discount emotions is a symptom of a larger dysfunction caused by the planetary conditions that dictated the course of human evolution on this planet.  

Eastern beliefs though more holistic in general and accepting of the metaphysical energies that are the focus of acupuncture (to name one example, Feng Shui, Chi, etc. ), have also discounted emotions - as something that one should rise above.  In order to become "enlightened" it was thought that one must rise above being human and feeling messy human emotions.

Both Western and Eastern beliefs are out of balance and codependent in my belief.

"All civilizations are dysfunctional to varying degrees, as are subcultures within those civilizations.  They just have different flavors of dysfunction, of imbalance.

As an example:  In much of Asia the individual is discounted for the good of the whole - whether that be family or corporation or country.  The individual takes his or her self-definition from the larger system.  That is just as out of balance and dysfunctional as the Western Civilization manifestation of glorifying the individual to the detriment of the whole.  It is just a different variety of dysfunction.

The goal of this dance of Recovery is integration and balance.  That means celebrating being a tree while also glorying in being a part of the forest.   Recovery is a process of becoming conscious of our individual wholeness and our ONENESS with all.


"As I pointed out in the online book I wrote explaining my perception of the September 11th terrorist attack as a manifestation of the human condition of codependency, both Western and Eastern Civilization have been out of balance.

"The dysfunction in Western Civilization has evolved to be more focused toward a left brain, masculine type of view of reality - concrete, rational, subdue the planet and multiply.  Eastern Civilization has tended toward more feminine, abstract, contemplative - detachment from the concrete, a perspective with more detachment from the Illusion.  But Eastern Civilization, though based upon a more intuitive perspective, did not, for the most part, manifest that in the treatment of women." - Attack on America: A Spiritual Healing Perspective &  Call for Higher Consciousness  Chapter 4
Eastern Civilization also did not manifest any balance emotionally.  Whereas Western Civilization has tended towards allowing righteous male anger and aggression to drive civilization's evolution, Eastern culture has in general tended more towards denial of all emotions - a stoic role model for appropriate emotional behavior." Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light Book 2: A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life Chapter 11: Codependent Counselors / Therapists / Healers (Both Attack & Dancing in Light can be accessed in subscription ares of Joy2MeU (which are available to anyone who makes a donation)


When I am working with people, teaching them my approach to inner healing, I always asked if they have been involved in Eastern meditation practices. The reason that I ask that is to be able to tell them that when I talk about how important the observer perspective is to codependency recovery I am not talking about the passive observer that is taught in meditation practices.   The type of observer perspective I teach people is pro-active and intervening - not just passively observing thoughts and feelings but actually taking action to change the internal programming that we do have the power to change." - The Metaphysics of Emotions - emotional energy is real

"At the core of the condition of codependence - which I believe is the human condition - is shame about being human.  Feeling that being human is a punishment of some kind - or something to evolve beyond.  As I say in my book, many aboriginal societies were far advanced over "civilized" societies in this regard.  They actually believed that there were Loving reasons for this human experience, and that it was just a temporary condition to celebrate rather than something to escape.

At the core of recovery from the dis-ease of codependence, is the need to take the shame and judgment out of the process on a personal level.  The only way, in my opinion, that we can Truly manifest Love into the world is to start with learning to Love ourselves.  As long as we are judging and shaming ourselves for being human, we will judge others for being human.  As long as we are fighting our own emotional process, we will not be able to clearly discern rather what we are feeling is a reaction that is coming from the old wounds and old tapes, or an emotional energy communication from our soul." - New Age Misinterpretations of Metaphysical Truth

The Spiritual paradigm that I was led to in my quest to figure out how there could be a Loving God Force in the Universe is the largest that I have ever encountered.

“My Truth is that the healing approach that I have developed is the most powerful and effective method I am aware of.   This is because the understanding that I have of human emotional dynamics is greater than any I have ever heard.  And that is because the Spiritual paradigm that I believe in, is the larger and more Loving than anything I have ever encountered.

As I said at the beginning of this work:

Very few people up to this time have Truly understood the magnitude and scope of the vision that I was guided to share in my book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls. . . . . . . My book is a work of Mystical Spirituality. . . . . . . The Spiritual paradigm that my intuition led me to, the mystical vision I share in my book, is one that is larger than any I have ever encountered.

I believe that the book I was given the privilege of writing - Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls - is one of the most important books in the history of humankind.


I believe that I have been guided to understand this dance of human life - and been given the gift of communicating my understanding - on a level that has never before been revealed.  I believe that the planetary conditions of polarity and reversity that I talk about in my book, are conditions that have never been understood previously - and that the mystical understanding and healing paradigm that I was guided to develop are unique, revolutionary, and a blessed gift from The Holy Mother Source Energy.

In other words, I am here stating that I believe that I know and understand some things about Spiritual Truth and human dynamics that no one else knows - to my knowledge.  Certainly that no one else understands and can communicate in as simple and practically applicable a method as I have been guided to discover.

If I am suffering from some kind of psychotic break and grandiose delusions, it sure does feel good.  It has transformed my life.  In sharing it with others, I have found that it seems to help them to be more Loving to themselves and to relax and enjoy life more.   I am offering you an alternative perspective to consider - take what resonates with you, what works for you, and leave the rest.” - Attack on America - September 11, 2001.  A Spiritual Healing Perspective & Call for Higher Consciousness.  Chapter 7 Age of Atonement (Can be accessed in subscription ares of Joy2MeU (which are available to anyone who makes a donation)

Each and every one of us has an inner channel.  We now have the capability to atone - which means tune into - to atone, to tune into the Higher Consciousness.  To tune into the Higher vibrational emotional energies that are Joy, Light, Truth, Beauty, and Love.

We can tune into the Truth of "at ONE ness."  Atone = at ONE.  Atonement = at ONE ment, in a condition of ONENESS.


We now have access to the highest vibrational frequencies - we can tune into the Truth of ONENESS.  By aligning with Truth we are tuning into the higher energy vibrations that reconnect us with the Truth of ONENESS.


This is the age of atonement, but it does not have anything to do with judgment and punishment.  It has to do with tuning our inner channel into the right frequencies.


But our inner channel is blocked and cluttered with repressed emotional energy and dysfunctional attitudes.  The more we clear our inner channel through aligning with Truth attitudinally, and releasing the repressed emotional energy through the grief process, the clearer we can tune into the music of Love and Joy, Light and Truth.

(Text in this color are quotes from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney)

In 2020, I found myself standing up in public and speaking my Truth in a way I had not envisioned.  As I stated in my The Dance of Wounded Souls, I believe that a new Age of Healing and Joy has dawned in Human Consciousness.  (Astrologically this is known as the age of Aquarius We actually had been doing human backwards - focusing externally instead of internally.

"We have been doing this human business backwards. The reason we have been doing it backwards is that the energy field of Collective Human Emotional Consciousness on planet Earth was reversed in its relationship to Truth for tens of thousands of years. It is not reversed anymore! . . . . . The energy field of Collective Human Emotional Consciousness on this planet was reversed in relationship to the Truth of the God-Force because of the polarization of the energy field of Collective Human Intellectual Consciousness.

The Lower Mind. 

Polarization, the tree of knowledge of good and evil, caused humans to see life, both externally and internally, as a battle of warring polar opposites: black and white thinking." 

"In all of the years since 1988, I believed that I was settling the Karma from that past lifetime, by speaking my Truth in public - and writing it for the public on my websites and in my books - about Codependence as the Human Condition.  When the Pandemic hit, I started doing Zoom workshops and giving the people who attended PDF copies of my book, as a way of trying to insure my legacy in case the covid took me out.  I believe that the Truth that I share in Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls, is an understanding beyond anything previously revealed - or anything that has since been revealed.  I thought that this was in a way, a completion of my legacy - and probably the last chance I would get to stand up for the Truth as I understand it.


It had never occurred to me until just recently that there might be another way that I would need to speak my Truth in public and stand up to evil - an opportunity that has been caused by the political conditions in the United States and the World here in 2020


In this article, I am going to talk about the Human Condition and the Planetary Conditions that have dictated the evolution of humanity  - and I will be explaining how in my perspective those Planetary Conditions have been impacting the planet this year."

“And what is happening now is a planetary cleansing.  When going through a cleansing, often the poison has to come to the surface.  That is what happening in the world in the crazy year of 2020 - polarity has been forced to the surface.  It has been manifesting all over the planet. . . . . 


. . . .What is happening on the planet these days is a planetary cleansing.  As a result of this cleansing, the poison has come to the surface.  The poison is Polarization which is what caused the Illusion of separation that created the Human Condition as we have inherited it.” - Standing up to evil - and Accepting the Divine Plan

When Covid hit, I started doing my Intensive Training Workshop to teach people how to set internal boundaries and apply the formula that I discovered in my recovery on Zoom because I wanted to spread the word.  I also gave everyone who signed up a PDF copy of my book because I wanted to spread the word as much as possible in case Covid took me out.


"A major reason that I have decided to do this, is to leave a record of my work in case I should end up being taken out by the virus.  I am in the susceptible Boomer group, so anything is possible.  I believe that the approach to inner child / emotional healing that I share in the workshop is the missing piece - the missing perspective - of the puzzle of life that so many people have been seeking.  It is a formula for integrating intellectual knowledge and spiritual Truth into one's emotional relationship with life.   It is the key to learning how to be more Loving to your self - and to turning life into an adventure to be experienced instead of an ordeal of suffering to be endured.” - Empowering & Life Changing Zoominar

So, I made it through Covid without ever catching it.  And I am still here - although I have way too many doctors in my life.  I gave up a long time ago on thinking that my book and work would ever be widely recognized while I was still alive - and it doesn't bother me.  I am living one day at a time and grateful to be alive even if it includes chronic pain these days.  I love where I am living, and would really like to keep living here for the forceable future.  Unfortunately I am going to need some Divine intervention, some angels or eskimos to help me to do that.  I will accept whatever the future is as it unfolds.  I would definitely not want to be homeless again.  And I am not at all crazy about the idea of a low income assisted living.  More will be revealed as usual.

"Don't get me wrong, I do not want to be homeless again - or keep driving a car on it's last legs.  But I am willing to accept the reality of my path as it is presented to me and make the best of it.  There is a level of my being that is human, that is self-centered and selfish and hates to be inconvenienced by disruption of my plans for me - that feels like it is grossly unfair that:  I haven't been richly rewarded materially on this physical plane;  that I don't have an intimate relationship to support and nurture me;  that I don't have a reliable car;  etc.  But that human part of me is not the level of my being that is defining my life for me today, that is dictating my perspectives and expectations of life.  My relationship with life today, the music I am dancing to, is aligned much more with Spiritual Self - because that is what I have found works best, because it allows me to relax and enjoy life most of the time." - Joy2MeU Update January 2002 Newsletter 1

I am going to close with my daily affirmations.  Repeat after me if you choose:

I am a Magnificent and Powerful Spiritual Being full of Light and Love!

I am Unconditionally Loved right in this very moment, I always have been, I always will be! 

I am perfectly where I am supposed to be on my Spiritual Path, and I am being guided Home! 

I am Radiantly Beautiful, Vibrationally Healthy, Joyously Alive, and Abundantly Prosperous. (I added this one after the stroke, because all of these things are Truth on a Higher Level, even if they aren't so True on this human level any more.:-)

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This is a continuation of the page Working the Third Step - ASKing for Help 2023 

- a history of how Eskimos and Angels helped me to publish and keep my book in print and my website going.

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